Man vs Woman

The psychological differences between men and women are not too obvious. They can also be difficult to describe, especially if you are trying to point out a "lack of" in your partner (I don't recommend that). Yet these differences can influence how we form and maintain relationships.
Recognizing, understanding, discussing as well as acting skillfully in light of the differences between the two of us can be difficult. Our failure to recognize and appreciate these differences can become a life long source of disappointment, frustration, tension and eventually our downfall in a relationship.

Problems arise when we expect or assume the opposite sex should think, feel or act the way we do. It’s not that we live in completely different realities. Really, it's our lack of knowledge and mutual experience that gives rise to our difficulties.

The challenge facing us is to become aware of our identities, to accept our differences, and to live our lives fully and as skillfully as possible. To do this we must first understand in what ways we are different. We must avoid trying to change others to suit our needs.

While men and women can reach similar conclusions and make similar decisions, the process we use can be quit different and in some cases can lead to entirely different outcomes. In general, men and women consider and process information differently.

Women tend to be intuitive multi-thinkers/taskers. They come to understand and consider problems all at once. They will take a broad or "collective" perspective, and view elements in a task or problem from all angles. Sometimes may even have difficulty separating their personal experience from problems. Yes.....You are emotional, We know. :)

Men tend to focus on one problem at a time or a limited number of problems at a time. We have an enhanced ability to separate ourselves from problems and minimize the complexity that may exist. We come to understand and consider problems one piece at a time. We take a one dimension perspective, and sometimes may work through a problem repeatedly, talking about the same thing over and over, rather than trying to fix the the problem all at once.

While there are differences in the ways that we think,
we must avoid taking our differences as personal attempts to frustrate each other, and to compromise whenever possible. The idea that one gender can think and feel like the other if they truly loved each is rather absurd. Sure, a man or women could act in consideration of the other’s needs, but this would not necessarily be rewarding and honest. Holding the benefit of another above our own is rewarding. But from time to time, and more often for most of us, it is important to be our self and to be accepted, and not to be the source of distress and disappointment in the lives of people we love.

Even our communication is on a different playing field. Take note to these 5 simple but useful expressions coming from a woman....it may just help you out one day. I'm still learning....I have a lot of trial and error....and like most men I praise the successful trials and I laugh off the errors...which has proven to not be the best solution to my mistakes. So if you are wrong or are told your wrong (even if your aren't) DON"T LAUGH!


"FINE": This is the word she'll use to end an argument when she feel she is right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a she looks. This will cause you to have one of "those" arguments.

"FIVE MINUTES": This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you pay attention to her again, so it's usually an even trade.

"NOTHING": This means "something" and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling she has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and will end with the word "Fine".

"GO AHEAD" (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare. One that will result in a her getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine".

"GO AHEAD" (Normal Eyebrows): This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine", and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.